Friday, February 4, 2011

My Views on Gay Marriage

I am normally a pretty easy going person; I like to say that the only thing I'm intolerant of is intolerance. I think that no matter who you are or where you're from a little sympathy for man and the common goal we all share (happiness) will go a lot farther than any hateful action ever could.

My Views on Gay Marriage

My views on this subject stem from a few places.
  1. my views on marriage
  2. my views on homosexuality
  3. my religion
Marriage is a sacrament given to humans by God just like those of Communion and Baptism. God gives us these gifts as part of our religion so that it can have an active physical place in our lives. Marriage is more than just tax benefits and the ability to have sex and not have to burn in Hell forever (although, you can't deny those things are nice)... it's about the gift of love and the security and strength that comes from being in a committed relationship with an equal. Someone who you love and are loved by forever (supposedly) decided to proclaim these feelings for each other in a public format and in doing so you proclaim your bodies (the temples given to you by God as well) to be for the other person only forever...

Wouldn't it be nice if we lived in an ideal world where people saw marriage for what it was intended?

Divorce, infidelity, loveless marriages... it's all so main stream I doubt anyone actually considers that the final most permanent step you can make with someone anymore. If you ask me a kid is way more permanent than marriage. You can't sign a paper saying you have irreconcilable differences with a kid ans walk out of the courtroom with more money in your pocket than when you walked in (or less, depending...)

Why should only straight people be allowed to get married? I think that the percentage of how many marriages end in divorce would decrease significantly if we'd just let the gays get married too. Prove to me that straight people know how to do marriage right and gays obviously couldn't do it better and maybe I'll believe you. But you can't. So I stand by this:

I support gay marriage.

Homosexuality stems from the same part of your physical make us as being straight. You can't be straight and say you don't understand how someone can be homo... They know just like you know. You're attracted to members of the opposite sex in the exact same way they are attracted to members of the same.

Humans don't develop their sexual orientation till somewhere between the ages of four and six. It has about as much to do with DNA as it does with outside forces (nature and nurture) and there is not only no cure (you can't fix something that isn't broken) but no reason that this should be looked at as a sin. The places in the bible that talk about homosexuality as an "abomination" also refer to things like prohibitions against round haircuts, tattoos, working on the Sabbath, wearing garments of mixed fabrics, eating pork or shellfish, getting your fortune told, having women as teachers, and even playing with the skin of a pig. (There goes football!)

If you're going to stand there in your cotton shirt with a silk tie, please refrain from telling me God hates gays because I will call you out on it.

Sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of, and when you condemn people for practises different from your own remember all the times you were mocked for being different. When your mom got your hair cut funny, or you failed a math test. When you accidentally misspoke or messed up a performance. When you didn't get onto a team or elected for something in which you were running. Any time your parents fought when you had a friend over or your older sibling made fun of you in public.

Remember all those times you were different too; then apologise to who ever you just hurt with the same behavior.

I grew up Lutheran. I went to Lutheran school for 9 years. I believe in God... and I believe in his message: love.

Simply put there is no God in your heart if there is no love. Show love and you are showing God. God doesn't hate gays, he loves them just like he loves you. God made them just like he made you. God wants them to be happy just like he wants you to be happy.

God doesn't make mistakes.

Loving is showing God.

Hating/condemning anyone for anything isn't showing love. You are not God, it is not your place to judge. Live a life of love and you will be living as God intended.

Have a good weekend.

Want an in depth look at why I feel this way? Click here.


  1. That's very inspiring. :)

  2. Great post - very thought provoking. I'm with you completely in your support of gay marriage.

  3. I think everybody has the right to share their life with someone else.

  4. I love this post. I completely agree!