Thursday, September 2, 2010

big goals

Something you hope to do in your life.

I grew up in a house where my mother told me I could do anything I wanted, and in reality this isn't true, but it was a nice gesture. Kids don't need to know that the world pisses on you as soon as you walk out the door, they don't need to know that people will try to cut you down in a sad attempt to bring themselves up, and kids don't need to know that they probably won't be able to do everything they want because money isn't as easy to come by as you thought and even of you're qualified someone is probably more qualified so you're basically screwed.

I grew up wanting to be a veterinarian, an astronaut, and a professional singer. I wanted to have a dog and kids and a big back yard for them to play in. I wanted to be a teacher. I wanted to be a wife.

Now, I just want to be alone... sort of. I want to be able to do what I want without having to rely on anyone else. I'd still like to get married, finding that special someone willing to spend the rest of their lives with me (and who I am willing to spend the rest of my life with) would be nice, but I'm to the point where I've realized that happiness is my own thing, no one can make me happy, therefore I can't rely on anyone else to do it.

What I really want for my life is to find my happy place, fill it with people I love, and live my life as a wife or a mother or a single person happily with less stress than people with unrealistic goals or a discontented heart. I want to be happy they way I'm supposed to be and I don't want to fight the universe. I don't want a white picket fence, I don't want a dog and a house and a baby on my arm. I mean, maybe, but those aren't my goals. My goals are to be happy and to stay happy. To go to bed smiling and to wake up the same way. I'm not going to do things I know I can't, I'm not going to be someone I know I'm not. I'm going to be me, I'm going to find where I fit into the big picture and I'm going to bask in the glory that is life.


  1. You said that asbolutely perfectly.

  2. I want to make sweet love to this article...

  3. this is perfect, i really needed to see this. thank you

  4. thanks for stopping by Denise.

    I have to agree with your mum. You can do and be whatever you want. and by choosing not to make the dog, fence and baby your 'want' you have already made your decision.

    You are the only person who can determine your future. I don't know what's happened in your past (yet) and I don't need to.

    You are the only person who can determine your future.

  5. I loved the article, but I also agree with poractacuscotts. I'm not saying it would be easy to accomplish whatever you want, that's not how life works.

    However much effort, blood, sweat, and tears you put into something will be the deciding factor in the outcome.

    If you really want something (goal), but you decide you can't do it or you don't feel like putting the effort in or you give up because you don't know how to go about achieving that goal, you should really step back and ask yourself if you really wanted that goal in the first place, because half-hearted sentiments usually won't get you very far.

    "...and even if you're qualified, someone is probably more qualified so you're basically screwed..." That's a very pessimistic view. o.o Sure, someone or maybe even many people are more qualified than you. If you're goal is to be the most qualified person, simply work as hard as you can to become the best. If you've truly put in your best effort, I don't really see how you can be dissatisfied in the end.

    If you think you've gone as far and as hard as you can, push a little further.

  6. And even if you debate that and call it ignorance, that's fine with me. I am generally in favor of the saying, "Ignorance is bliss." :P

    I'd rather keep trying my hardest than immediately setting myself up for failure by telling myself I can't do something.

    You don't know unless you try. And even then, maybe you just haven't tried hard enough yet.

  7. I think you've grasped what so many people have not: to simply be happy in life.

    You rock my socks, Ms. Potter.

  8. This gave me an extra spring in my step today, just when I needed it - Thanks! :)

  9. I grew up just wanting to be a teacher, which should have been a reasonable career choice, but I can't even manage that in this economy.

    Oh well! I will be happy. I think this is what Oprah calls "following your bliss."

  10. Hey Denise, new to your blog and very happy to have stumbled upon it. I think we may have a few things in common...penguins, Harry Potter, gay best friends--why, we're practically soul mates. Thanks for the good reading.