I got asked out today by a fellow match dot com-er who I have officially been talking to for, wait for it...
He emailed me this morning asking for my phone number, I emailed him back giving it to him and we've been texting for approximately and hour and a half...
5 texts later he asked me to dinner.
Naturally I accepted. I love dinner.
But here is where he rubbed me wrong:
him: Do you have class or work today? (I'm re-reading your profile now)
What he actually means by re-reading is reading. For the first time. Because he admitted in his original email that he had just skimmed my profile.
me: I'm not in school right now because I originally started out studying music Education and decided two years in, it wasn't for me. Now I'm ready to go back and will be studying nursing starting in May but I won't know if I'm accepted into the program (30 people per session get accepted) till March but because I'm brilliant I should have no problem. That and my good looks.
him: Intelligence idk yet. But looks I agree :-)
First of all, I hate IDK, just like I hate BTW and people (my sister, the English teacher) who say them out loud. Secondly, please do not tell me you're finally re-reading my profile after asking me for my number, then tell me you think I'm hot but you don't think I'm smart.
I'm very smart. I try not to be annoyingly smart when I talk to people because no one wants to hear about statistics and facts about the brain over a few cocktails even though that's all I'm thinking about. If a guy doesn't appreciate me for my brain it doesn't matter how cute he thinks I am.
I've never dated a guy before who wanted me to be his arm candy (mostly because I'm mildly to moderately outspoken and usually say something inappropriate because it's hilarious and I like to make people squirm). I will never be any ones arm candy. I may have arm candy in the future when I am a billionaire from writing a book or singing something really well, or possibly this blog gets as famous as the pioneer woman's or something... but arm candy is such a waste of time.
I've never slept with someone more than once that I found to be anything less than intelligent and hilarious.
I have two standards. You must be smart and you must be funny.
If I get to choose you'll have glasses and be over 6ft tall.
If I really really get to choose you'll have dark hair and green eyes so we can make little baby clones of ourselves.
Basically all I ask is that you like me for the reasons I like me. And don't downplay how important my intelligence is. I'm not looking for a guy who doesn't value my opinions and input.
And never say IDK... ugh.